When you’re sure you did everything you can, but it still wasn’t good enough for some people, how would you feel? Like, no matter how much time or effort you’ve exerted, you can’t seem to make something perfect?
Yeah, it might hurt, especially if you know that you’ve already did it with all your might. But here’s one thing I want to tell you: you can always grow and do better. The road to success is never a straight path, nor is it a final destination. There are twists and turns. Some pathways may be blocked, but you can always find some other way to get through it.
No matter what you do, no matter how successful you become, you should always have a room for you to grow. There are a lot of things you might not know yet but can learn during your whole lifetime. That’s why you should not beat yourself for not doing something great at first. It’s okay to fail as long as you know how to get back up and do it right next time.
So when you encounter criticisms as you go along, know how to rise. Appreciate them when they knock, because they are the calls you need to help you thrive—to help you be the best that you can be.
If you’re still not used to taking criticisms, here are some steps you can do to help you take them constructively.
1. Keep your initial reaction to yourself
When you hear someone commenting on your work, you might feel hurt, causing you to become defensive or heighten your temper. Stay calm. Take a deep breath and hold your emotions to yourself. This will not only help you understand what the person is saying, but this will also prevent heated discussions with your co-worker.
2. Appreciate comments and say thank you
Someone just gave his or her thoughts on how to help you improve, be grateful. It doesn’t matter if what he or she said felt detrimental or offensive, just say thank you. If someone tells you something about your work or how you act, it means that he or she cares about you and wants you to be corrected for your own good.
3. Listen and understand
As you stay calm, listen to every point your commenter has to say. Not everyone has the guts to point out what’s wrong with other’s works or actions. Take the opportunity to hear important points to help you be better.
4. Find out where you went wrong
After listening to the comment, find out which aspects went right and which should be changed or improved. From here you can draw where you went wrong. The causes may be your lack of familiarity about something, a trouble in the working process, or some external factors that hindered you from getting the best result.
5. Look for ways to improve
Once you’ve understood the root cause, you can finally find the perfect way to turn things around. When you’ve finally accepted that you were wrong or there’s something that should be altered about your work, it will be easier for you to look for avenues to improve. You can also try reaching out for help from your classmates and teachers.
Admitting your fault or realizing your own weakness is a healthy sign that you are continuously growing. Allow yourself to be lost, fall down if you must, but keep going. Don’t feel bad about negative comments. They’re there to help. Appreciate them and use them to your advantage.